Couples Counseling
My Campbell couples counseling and couples therapy service area includes Los Gatos, Willow Glen, and San Jose.
Couples come to counseling with a variety of issues — “We fight all the time, but we never resolve anything”, or “We are friends, but there’s no passion or romance”, or “We can’t communicate”, or “There’s no closeness or intimacy – I’m so lonely in this relationship” — are just a few of the difficulties often described to me. Sometimes people are almost ready to give up, and trying therapy is the last step.
The good news is that relationships can be improved if both partners want to work on it, and even when only one partner will come in!
What does that mean? Without trying to predict exactly how it will work, since every couple is unique, I can offer some insight into the process.
Some requirements for successful couples therapy
- Time — I see couples weekly, usually for about 6 months — sometimes more, and sometimes less. The duration of our work together is up to you. Sometimes couples’ sessions are interspersed with individual sessions, and if we get stuck I may ask for 2 sessions back to back in order to provide more intensive work more quickly. I frequently give homework assignments, such as going out on “dates”. There is no way around the fact that if you want a healthy relationship, it needs to be a priority in your life.
- Commitment to working on you — It’s never easy or comfortable to change. I will ask you to look at things differently, to do things differently, to change some beliefs and attitudes that aren’t working, and to think differently. It’s easy to focus on what your partner is doing wrong, but that makes you powerless! Can you tell me how you will need to change in order to improve this relationship?
- Commitment to working on the relationship — There will be short-term discomfort, and the emotional risk of being vulnerable as you learn to be open to your partner, and your partner learns to be open to you. This is critical in successful couples communication counseling.
What if your partner isn’t willing to come to couples counseling? While it isn’t ideal, you can make a difference in your relationship by working on the way you respond to your partner. When one partner changes their “steps” in the dance that is a relationship, others will change in response. I can help you learn to communicate better, and give you tools that you can take away and use to your benefit!
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Call me at 408-566-3119 or email me at JM@judithmcfarland.com and let’s talk about your therapy needs.
Campbell Couples Counseling and Couples Therapy
My couples therapy and couples communication counseling includes the following areas: San Jose, Sunnyvale, Santa Cruz, Palo Alto, Monte Sereno, Los Gatos, Cupertino, Mountain View, Scotts Valley, Campbell, Willow Glen and Milpitas CA.
